Our FLR Relationship Contract Ceremony

Monday, February 15, 2016

I am writing this the day after Valentine Day and in the past 24 hours I feel I have graduated to being a truly dominant woman who is the leader in a female-led relationship, and my husband has embraced is place being subservient to me, at least for the next three-month trial period, and I have a feeling it is going to last much longer.  On Saturday night, Ross was serving me orally, which has become a much more customary since we began exploring a female-led relationship.  While he pleasured me, I asked him if he was really committed to a relationship in which I was in control in all ways.  In that moment he couldn’t have agreed any faster.  I reminded him he has repeatedly challenged me to “take it to the next level.”  I told him if he was serious, I wanted us to go through a kind of commitment ceremony on Valentine Day.  His curiosity was piqued beyond compare.  I set the ground rules for the ceremony and he agreed that he would comply with everything I asked/required of him, during the ceremony, and make and keep any promises I required of him for our three-month FLR trial.  For the rest of the night he tried to get me to reveal more information about the commitment ceremony, but I gave him no answers.  In fact, I had only a vague idea of how the ceremony would unfold because my friend, Angela had decided to be the “producer” of a role play situation that would require Ross to demonstrate his commitment to submitting to me through a legal contract, AND leaving Ross with the belief that it was all real. 

Our commitment ceremony was scheduled to be the conclusion of a lunch Angela hosted at her house.  In addition to Angela, Ross, and myself, there were two other guests.  One was a tall, simultaneously beautiful and mature looking woman, dressed in casual business attire.  She had an expensive-looking cream colored blazer buttoned over a lacey camisole, (It was over 80 degrees here yesterday) and wore jeans with red heels.  Her hair was gray throughout and cut in an unbalanced bob.  Her red lipstick matched her shoes and expensively manicured nails.  Angela introduced her to us as the attorney who had prepared the relationship contract we would sign that afternoon.  (Although he said nothing, Ross definitely had a reaction to the announcement we would be “signing a relationship contract.”).  The “attorney” introduced the second guest as her assistant who needed to join us to notarize the contract.  She was a shorter, curly-haired woman who appeared even older than the “lawyer,” but also had a worldly presence.  She said little throughout the afternoon but took a few notes during the lunch.

The lunch was cherry/chicken salad with iced tea.  The weather was so hot, it felt like summer, but not so hot that we couldn’t enjoy having the French doors open out to Angela’s beautiful back yard.  It was an enjoyable lunch conversation led mostly by the “attorney” and Angela, who are obviously long time friends, who discussed their travels over the Christmas holidays.  Ross was absolutely silent, barely making eye contact with anyone, until the “attorney” asked him directly how he liked submitting to me.  She asked the question in a very conversational, even friendly way, but he couldn’t muster an answer and looked at me to save him.  Before either of us responded, the attorney continued, saying to Ross, “you must like submitting to her if you are going to agree to everything that is in this contract I prepared for the two of you to sign.”  She then turned the conversation in a different direction, leaving Ross to contemplate what was in the contract. 

When the lunch was finished, Angela invited all the women to join her on the back deck for a drink and asked Ross to clear the table.  When he had finished that task he came to the doorway leading to the deck, announced he was finished with his task and asked if there was anything else that needed to be done.  Angela dismissed him to sit in the dining room to wait for us, but gave me an approving look, which made me very proud of him.

After about 20 minutes, the attorney directed us to all return to the dining room and find seats around the dining table.  She had Ross and I sit on either side of her with a pile of official looking papers in front of her.  She explained in a very serious manner that while some people thought the type of contract we were enacting was frivolous, it is actually very serious and legally binding.  (I know that it isn’t, and Ross may discover it is not legally binding, but the point of this role play was to make him believe it is real.  At this point, he seems to be accepting our femdom contract is legally binding.) 

The attorney then provided each of us with a copy of the contract, but made clear to Ross that he was the one making all the agreements in exchange for my accepting him as my submissive.  She asked him if he understood what he was agreeing to and if he was ready to enact the contract.  He agreed he was and the attorney then started through the provisions of the contract requiring each of us to initial each item individually.

The contract started with an introductory paragraph defining female-led relationships.  The second paragraph was a description of my responsibilities as the female leader of our relationship, and specifically identified my responsibilities including being the benevolent supervisor of Ross’ life, with the final authority on all decisions in our married life or in Ross’ individual life, including as examples small and large, having the authority and potentially deciding when he would be allowed to urinate, or deciding if and when he would commence feminizing hormone therapy.  The third paragraph described Ross’ general standing in our relationship as the subservient party and was followed with a list of specific requirements, each of which Ross was required to initial.  Days ago I had given Angela a list of things I would like to see in the contract and I was curious to see how many of my requests would be included.  The contract requirements (in less legally technical jargon) are:   

1.      Ross will be allowed a maximum of two orgasms from February 14 to May 22, 2016.  Neither of which is guaranteed, and both to be determined by me.  One may occur on his birthday, April 2, and another on any day of my choosing.  If my decision is to not permit him an orgasm on his birthday, that will not result in a total of more than one orgasm for the duration of the trial (until May 22).

2.     Before February 22 (next Monday), Ross must receive a full-body waxing and must maintain his body hair-free until May 22.

3.     Ross agrees to relinquish control of all the money he earns from now through May 22.  Ross will carry one credit card for emergencies only, and may only use it with my permission secured through text or voice message.  By mutual agreement I will remove all our income (both his and mine) from a jointly controlled account to which we each have access, and place it in an account over which I have sole control.

4.     Ross will acknowledge, through the execution of the contract, my authority over all decision-making in our lives, including our use of free time.  That is not to say that I will dictate how Ross spends all his time, but if I choose to, he agrees that I MAY dictate how he uses any of his time.

5.     In addition to generally agreeing to my authority over his time, Ross acknowledges that his role in our intimate relationship is SOLELY for the purpose of providing me with pleasure and that all our intimate interaction will be for my pleasure.  He will acknowledge and accept that any sexual satisfaction he experiences will be coincidental.

6.     Ross agrees to enter into psychotherapy, commencing by March 11, to determine if he is diagnosably transgender and to explore his desire to transition.

7.     Ross agrees to receive a Prince Albert piercing, and will travel with me directly from the commitment ceremony to a piercing appointment, to receive the piercing.

8.     Ross will be required to develop a written pledge of his subservience to me.  The first draft of this written pledge will be provided to me by February 26.

At the conclusion of Ross’ initials being applied to each contract provision, the “attorney” had us each sign both copied of the initialed contract.  The “attorney’s” aid the applied an official compression stamp/seal to both contracts, and signed the seal.  The attorney gave us one signed copy and placed the other contract copy in a folder that she said would be placed in a safe in her office.  She told us that ordinarily the contract would be recorded to make it legally binding, but because contracts of this sort were commonly extended and modified after the trial period, keeping a copy would streamline that process in May.  She warned Ross that if he did not abide by any of the requirements of the contract, I could notify her office and she would file the contract making it enforceable.

Thursday, February 17, 2016

This is a follow-up to our commitment ceremony, that occurred on Sunday, Valentine’s Day.  Ross and I went directly from the ceremony to a tattoo/piercing shop I had previously investigated.  Although extremely anxious (both of us), Ross withstood the piercing quite well.  It looked like it would hurt horribly to me, but Ross’ reaction indicated it was not that bad.  I have learned to recognize when Ross is in “sub space,” and since Sunday, almost any interaction I initiate between us reminding him of his subservient status, pushes him in the direction of “sub space.”  When I started exploring this lifestyle some months ago, it was a partly exciting and partly unnerving fantasy.  I cannot believe how much my feelings have changed.  I don’t think there is any way I can backtrack from this new way of relating to one another, and it seems Ross agrees.